I was considering becoming a doula as I am very interested in midwifery, now I have gained some interest in becoming an obgyn nurse, hopefully this is something I can pursue once the kids start going to school.
This is a great article on the importance of doulas:
http://www.scienceandsensibility.org/?p=839
Saturday, December 5, 2009
Thursday, December 3, 2009
Update on Life Events
To update my blog post from September 03, 2007 in which I listed the major events from 2004-2007 I will add both those events and current events just to display how crazy my life has been in the past 5 years (from most recent to least recent):
Me adjusting to being full-time SAHM with now TWO kids while living with in-laws
Matt gets dream job after 5 months of no income, although salary is less than hoped for
Move to NC to move in with in-laws
Unable to pay rent
I don't get unemployment
Matt nor I able to find job
Lose job with State of Ohio (can't keep up)
Having major anxiety issues requiring meds
Got job with State of Ohio
Having trouble balancing two kids with church life + disagree with church's focus("vision")
Birth of Liam (VBAC!)
Matt's job loss
High risk pregnancy/hospitalization
Changing relationship with close friends (some distancing)
Trying out different church experience with Xenos
Learning how to be a SAHM
Pregnancy with Liam
New climate, new culture in Ohio
New job for Matt, New home
Move to Ohio
Matt's grandpa dying
Move-in with In-laws (one year)
Luke's suicide
More Hurricanes/Tropical Storms
Post partum Depression
Pregnancy and Birth of Kaylin (C-section!)
Matt's unemployment
Move into small apartment together
Marriage to Matt
Hurricanes/Tropical Storms
Getting a job with County Emergency Management Office
New church experiences (institutional vs. home church)
Start/end of romantic relationships
Unemployment
Moving to Fort Lauderdale
Personal Crisis
Me adjusting to being full-time SAHM with now TWO kids while living with in-laws
Matt gets dream job after 5 months of no income, although salary is less than hoped for
Move to NC to move in with in-laws
Unable to pay rent
I don't get unemployment
Matt nor I able to find job
Lose job with State of Ohio (can't keep up)
Having major anxiety issues requiring meds
Got job with State of Ohio
Having trouble balancing two kids with church life + disagree with church's focus("vision")
Birth of Liam (VBAC!)
Matt's job loss
High risk pregnancy/hospitalization
Changing relationship with close friends (some distancing)
Trying out different church experience with Xenos
Learning how to be a SAHM
Pregnancy with Liam
New climate, new culture in Ohio
New job for Matt, New home
Move to Ohio
Matt's grandpa dying
Move-in with In-laws (one year)
Luke's suicide
More Hurricanes/Tropical Storms
Post partum Depression
Pregnancy and Birth of Kaylin (C-section!)
Matt's unemployment
Move into small apartment together
Marriage to Matt
Hurricanes/Tropical Storms
Getting a job with County Emergency Management Office
New church experiences (institutional vs. home church)
Start/end of romantic relationships
Unemployment
Moving to Fort Lauderdale
Personal Crisis
What if I had not been born prematurely?
I just had the thought, what if I had been born on or around my actual due date instead of prematurely? I realized that my life would (could) be dramatically different.
I was due on Thanksgiving (end of November) of '80. Instead I was born 6 weeks early on October 13th. My mom had a high risk pregnancy (pregnancy induced hypertension) and was hospitalized in Mississippi even though we were living in Florida.
I would most likely have been born the first week of December if there had been no problems in the pregnancy (with 1st time mommies usually giving birth 1-2 weeks after assigned due date) I would have been born in Florida not in Mississippi.The most profound effect is that I would have started school a year later. They let me slide- I guess if you were born Sept 1 or earlier they would let you start, but they made an exception for me (which they most likely wouldn't have had I been born in December) and I started Kindergarden at age 4.
I was born weighing 3' 11 oz (tiny!) and the first few years of my life I had some respiratory problems. So I image those around me were probably a little protective of me. I was seen as little Kimmy. What if I had been born regular sized with no problems? Might I have been viewed, or raised, differently?
I believe I probably would have lived in the same places, but just would have been in a different grade. I would have started school in the states in 2nd grade instead of 3rd. I remember having trouble with 3rd grade math because in 2nd grade in England I had learned British currency and when I moved to the US pennies, nickles, dimes, quarters, and dollars seemed foreign to me. I didn't do well at math as a result and I did poorly in math classes (as I had no confidence in myself on the subject) until I came across my 10th grade Alegbra teacher whose teaching style just made sense to me. So, would this have changed my grades and my academic interests? My major in college?
I may have not have met my Karen, Rebecca, Julia, Robin and Jessie (my friends in Florida when I was 7-11 yrs old) because I wouldn't have been in the same grade as them. Because they are still in my psyche, they influenced the way that I think about things (some good, some bad).
I would not have started high school in Nebraska. My 9th grade was such an important year. Rachel G. influenced me to try out for cheerleading (something I had no interest doing on my own). The friends I made, the crushes on boys I had, would all be different.
I would have started high school in Texas. I may not have participated in TKD because I would not have met Amy B. I may not have met my long term long-distance boyfriend at the time and the implications of that are staggering. Most importantly, I may not have had any experience with church (and thus may have come to my relationship with God by a different means) because I had no interest in going, but Amy B asked me so many times I eventually said yes.
Looking back I realized that I identified more with the class behind me ('99, and somewhat with the class of '00 although less so) than I did with my own graduating class. My parents divorced in '98. So the question is, would I have remained with my Dad in Texas or moved in with my mom in Louisiana? Would I have ended up going to college in NY or in MT (where my parents prospectively ended up moving to)? Or Texas or Florida?
I most likely would not have met the people I met in Florida. And thus, my spiritual journey would look remarkable different. Would I have met my husband or would I be married to someone else? Would I have the kids I have now?
I guess I'm thinking about this because, while I know that I have choices in life that direct the way my life goes, I feel as if it were my destiny to have been born 6 weeks early, as my life would look remarkably different had I been born "on time." As there are no answers as to what could have happened, I can only marvel at God's perfect timing and plan for my life.
I was due on Thanksgiving (end of November) of '80. Instead I was born 6 weeks early on October 13th. My mom had a high risk pregnancy (pregnancy induced hypertension) and was hospitalized in Mississippi even though we were living in Florida.
I would most likely have been born the first week of December if there had been no problems in the pregnancy (with 1st time mommies usually giving birth 1-2 weeks after assigned due date) I would have been born in Florida not in Mississippi.The most profound effect is that I would have started school a year later. They let me slide- I guess if you were born Sept 1 or earlier they would let you start, but they made an exception for me (which they most likely wouldn't have had I been born in December) and I started Kindergarden at age 4.
I was born weighing 3' 11 oz (tiny!) and the first few years of my life I had some respiratory problems. So I image those around me were probably a little protective of me. I was seen as little Kimmy. What if I had been born regular sized with no problems? Might I have been viewed, or raised, differently?
I believe I probably would have lived in the same places, but just would have been in a different grade. I would have started school in the states in 2nd grade instead of 3rd. I remember having trouble with 3rd grade math because in 2nd grade in England I had learned British currency and when I moved to the US pennies, nickles, dimes, quarters, and dollars seemed foreign to me. I didn't do well at math as a result and I did poorly in math classes (as I had no confidence in myself on the subject) until I came across my 10th grade Alegbra teacher whose teaching style just made sense to me. So, would this have changed my grades and my academic interests? My major in college?
I may have not have met my Karen, Rebecca, Julia, Robin and Jessie (my friends in Florida when I was 7-11 yrs old) because I wouldn't have been in the same grade as them. Because they are still in my psyche, they influenced the way that I think about things (some good, some bad).
I would not have started high school in Nebraska. My 9th grade was such an important year. Rachel G. influenced me to try out for cheerleading (something I had no interest doing on my own). The friends I made, the crushes on boys I had, would all be different.
I would have started high school in Texas. I may not have participated in TKD because I would not have met Amy B. I may not have met my long term long-distance boyfriend at the time and the implications of that are staggering. Most importantly, I may not have had any experience with church (and thus may have come to my relationship with God by a different means) because I had no interest in going, but Amy B asked me so many times I eventually said yes.
Looking back I realized that I identified more with the class behind me ('99, and somewhat with the class of '00 although less so) than I did with my own graduating class. My parents divorced in '98. So the question is, would I have remained with my Dad in Texas or moved in with my mom in Louisiana? Would I have ended up going to college in NY or in MT (where my parents prospectively ended up moving to)? Or Texas or Florida?
I most likely would not have met the people I met in Florida. And thus, my spiritual journey would look remarkable different. Would I have met my husband or would I be married to someone else? Would I have the kids I have now?
I guess I'm thinking about this because, while I know that I have choices in life that direct the way my life goes, I feel as if it were my destiny to have been born 6 weeks early, as my life would look remarkably different had I been born "on time." As there are no answers as to what could have happened, I can only marvel at God's perfect timing and plan for my life.
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